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    Tips for the Praying Parent

    Lessons in prayer and faith from a praying mom.

    Linda Gilden

    Mom, did I wake you up?"

    I'd already been awake for a little while that I'd already been awake for a little while that morning when my son called. But what surprised me was that he was awake. It wasn't unusual for Jeff to wake me with a phone call, but that was usually because, being a college guy, he'd call late at night, not the first thing in the morning. This was prime sleeping time for a college student!

    "No, I was already up. How are things going?"

    "During the inevitable bumps in the road, it's not usually a good idea to 'bail out' kids who've gotten themselves into a little trouble. But it's always important to pray them through those situations."

    "Well, I've had a pretty rough morning."

    "What happened?" I asked, trying to keep the maternal crescendo out of my voice.

    "I'm fine," he said, "but someone broke into our dorm last night and stole a bunch of stuff. They took all my credit cards and my new jacket."

    "Have you called your credit card company?"

    "I took care of all that. I'll be home this afternoon to get identification so I can get a new driver's license. Brad is going to drive me."

    That afternoon I sat around the table with my son and two friends.

    "Tell me exactly when this happened," I asked.

    "About 4:30 or 5 this morning..."

    tips for parents praying for their college studentI sat back a moment and thought about what he'd just said. I'd awakened around 5 that morning—about the time my husband was getting up for work. As I lay in bed, I'd been overcome with an urgency to pray for our son. Jeff was on my mind because he was nearing exams and had been very busy. I had no idea at that very moment there was a stranger or two in his dorm room pilfering his belongings. But God did. He knew my prayers were needed for the safety of my son.

    Having a child in college changes your prayer life. When we left our first child at college, we prayed for her as we drove out of the parking lot. That prayer was the beginning of many fervent prayers for our college children.

    The Prayer Connection

    The college years require "letting go" in many areas of our children's lives. They no longer need our permission to go somewhere. We can't monitor their moods or do whatever we can to assure their happiness. We can pack all the vitamins we want for them, but we have no way to know whether or not the tablets are swallowed.

    As my kids approached college age, I wanted a way to feel like a vital part of their lives, even though I knew it was time to let go. Praying often and fervently for them helps me do that. Even though I don't always know their specific needs—like during my son's incident—praying for my kids helps me entrust them to God, who knows exactly what they need.

    Many times I feel like I'm just throwing prayers upward—wondering if God is listening. In those times, I just have to trust in the promise that God really is listening and acting on my requests. Other times, though, I can truly sense God speaking to me as I pray for my children. This happened once when I was praying in the shower for my daughter. I was feeling desperate, like there wasn't enough happening spiritually in her life. I was begging God (again!) to get in there and do something. Suddenly I sensed God saying, "I am in control. I love her even more than you do. Rest in that." God's message was clear. And as I was praying for God to move in my daughter's life, he was working in mine.

    Prompted to Pray

    I'm almost always praying generally that my kids will see God's hand in their lives throughout all of the new experiences college life brings. But I've also discovered some "prayer prompts"—mental tricks that remind me to pray for a specific child or concern. Here are a few that may work for you: